I have 3 Bible Views open and the first 2 have the xrefs in order, but the 3rd does not - even tried replacing the view and that did notwork.

Does the 3rd Bible View have the same xref sets selected as the first two? (Under Bible View Options or Ctrl+O.)

No, they were not the same and when I made them the same the xref order did change. I tested the others and set them all the same, but when I select "Default Cross-references", it changes the order which leads to another question: If I deselect "Default Cross-references", am I going to get all the xrefs? For this particular, yes I do get all the xrefs.

As you have noted, it was a setting that was causing the difference.
It must be noted that a Bible with inbuilt xrefs and the settings you have will display the inbuilt references at the end of a verse in canonical order, followed by any overlay verses that have been set, hence the out of order appearance from where the overlay verses start (could be useful to know that division).
If what you required was the xrefs from NKJV+default xrefs, then you can easily make a new overlay that merges those two sets. Then change the xref settings to "hide original xrefs". Now your new custom xref set will display as you want it.

Thanks JG, I had not noticed the issue before and I have had TW for a long time, but now I know how to handle.